The Paradox of Joy: Why We Must Endure Suffering to Find True Happiness

People often exhaust themselves in pursuing happiness but often look in the wrong places.

Some believe that wealth is the key, so they work tirelessly and sacrifice their family life to earn large incomes. However, they soon realize they always want more, no matter how much they have.

Others chase after fame and status. The latest “star” quickly rises to fame, only to be replaced by the next one in seconds.

Beauty and attractiveness also make the list. Cosmetic surgeons try to make unhappy individuals look better than they feel.

But ultimately, we believe that if life were easy and devoid of trials and difficulties, we would find happiness.

However, life presents us with a paradox. The only way to find joy is to endure suffering.

Nelson Mandela learned this truth firsthand.

Mandela spent 27 years in prison for his fight against apartheid in South Africa. During his imprisonment, he endured solitary confinement, physical abuse, and isolation from his loved ones.

Yet, Mandela never lost hope. He used his time in prison to educate himself, plan for the future, and strengthen his determination to fight for justice. When he was finally released, he became the first black president of South Africa.

In the book of James, found at the end of the New Testament, James shares a counterintuitive truth.

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.” (James 1:2–3, ESV)

Trials, testing, and joy may seem incompatible, but they lead us to something more profound than mere happiness.

Difficulties in life reveal the things that truly bring us joy. Through these challenges, we find companionship with others who are also struggling. This fellowship brings us closer to people and brings us joy.

Struggles compel us to persevere. We must tap into the strength we never knew we had to endure. In doing so, we discover resilience, a trait essential for living.

Trials also help us appreciate the good times more. When we experience difficulties, we cherish life and its moments of joy. Suddenly, we find gratitude in the small things.

For seventeen years, I made an annual medical mission trip to Managua, Nicaragua to oversee a program that provides meals to underprivileged children.

The living conditions were far from luxurious. The water was cold, the plumbing was often nonexistent, and the tropical climate made it difficult to stay cool.

However, upon returning home, I realized how blessed I was. Sewage did not flow through the streets, and hot water and toilet paper were no longer necessities but blessings.

Above all, witnessing the joy on the faces of those who received a hot breakfast erased the difficulties and replaced them with a precious commodity: joy.

Embrace your struggles, whether from a chemotherapy facility, a rehabilitation bed, or a sleepless night. God has allowed them for a purpose, and they can lead us to the happiness He wants us to experience.